Tell you what I did, and what I think went wrong.
What I did:
Setting up Raspberry Pi headless way.
Downloaded Raspbian Lite version
Used etcher to write image to SD card
Added ssh to folder in SD card
Plugged in SD card, Ethernet cable and power cord
Found IP address of Raspberry Pi on router page.
SSH into Pi, logged in with default password
Changed settings in raspi-config boot to desktop with password
Used VNC to Pi, it connected
Asks for me to log in to the Pi, used default username, password
Screen turns black, and then goes back to the username password login page
What I think I did wrong: Is it possible to boot to desktop with the lite version?